Formality and customs, these are the basis of my marriage. I got her pregnant and it was unplanned. Though I was ready to take responsibility, she is not.

Formality, when the news broke to our families there is one thing in common I saw both our mother’s cry in disbelief. I saw her mother cry when I met her parents in a restaurant in the Makati area. I thought she’ll be coming with me but alas she is very busy at work and I didn’t nag her to go for I feel she is quite dismay with the current events also I think she can’t bear seeing her parent’s reaction. I man up and went to introduce myself. I told my in-laws that I’ll take responsibility and will marry their daughter.

Custom, though I could have turn my back from that point I didn’t, values where imprinted to my core and one is that I have to marry her; and give my child a father. Because my parents didn’t raise me to be selfish and always taught me to be responsible. Apart from those teachings I decided that I will build a better family.

But this was all me, I didn’t even ask her opinion. She felt that she was being force to accept the results of the decisions that was only presented for her to know. I blame myself for not realizing this and kept on my plans.