The Nico Station

One of the common misconceptions about love is the idea that DEPENDENCY is love. This is a misconception with which psychotherapists must deal with on a daily basis. Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual who makes an attempt or gesture or threat to commit suicide or who becomes incapacitating depressed in response to a rejection or separation from a spouse or lover. Such a person says:
"I do not want to live, I cannot live without my husband (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend), I love him (or her) so much".
And when I respond, as I frequently do, "You are mistaken; you do not love your husband (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend)."
"What do you mean?" is the angry question. "I just told you I can’t live without him (or her)."

I try to explain.
"What you describe is parasitism, not love. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. There is no choice, no freedom involved in your relationship. It is a matter of necessity rather than love. Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to be with each other."

"Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?"
Life came at me fast and I had to grow up fast to cope. I hit a few bumps in the road, fell on my ass, dusted it off, and made a new dance move. Repeating mistakes because "we’re young" is a copout. Even with time, you’ll never get any better at fucking up and practice does NOT make perfect; practice makes permanent. Life is your dress rehearsal and show all at once. You can’t associate maturity with age, or even experience, but instead with how you handle yourself at all times.
"People are like stained glass windows; their beauty only shows if there’s a light within."
When karma comes around she tends to be on my side so that signifies I must be doing right. I’m waiting to meet up with her and kick "Life’s" ass.
Do you feel so demasculinated by your own sexual orientation that you have to use the term "straight acting"? What a slap in the face, hypocrite. News Flash: Someone being femme doesn’t make them gayer than you. You have no reason to not be comfortable unless there’s something not right with yourself.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind."
Flirting is fun and fine, but if you’re giving the same impression to multiple romantic interests then you’re diluting everything. Don’t bark up my tree. I’m a one guy kind of guy.
"If it’s something you’ll regret in the morning, sleep in late."

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