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		<title>Is Dependency Love?</title>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="justify">One of the common misconceptions about love is the idea that DEPENDENCY is love. This is a misconception with which psychotherapists must deal with on a daily basis. Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual who makes an attempt or gesture or threat to commit suicide or who becomes incapacitating depressed in response to a rejection or separation from a spouse or lover. Such a person says:    <br /><em>&quot;I do not want to live, I cannot live without my husband (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend), I love him (or her) so much&quot;.</em>     <br />And when I respond, as I frequently do,<em> &quot;You are mistaken; you do not love your husband (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend).&quot;</em>     <br /><em>&quot;What do you mean?&quot;</em> is the angry question. <em>&quot;I just told you I can&#8217;t live without him (or her).&quot;</em> </p>
<p align="justify">I try to explain.    <br /><em>&quot;What you describe is parasitism, not love. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. There is no choice, no freedom involved in your relationship. It is a matter of necessity rather than love. Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to be with each other.&quot;</em></p>
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		<title>Just A Thought</title>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>&quot;Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?&quot;</i>     <br />Life came at me fast and I had to grow up fast to cope. I hit a few bumps in the road, fell on my ass, dusted it off, and made a new dance move. Repeating mistakes because &quot;we&#8217;re young&quot; is a copout. Even with time, you&#8217;ll never get any better at fucking up and practice does NOT make perfect; practice makes permanent. Life is your dress rehearsal and show all at once. You can&#8217;t associate maturity with age, or even experience, but instead with how you handle yourself at all times.     <br /><i>&quot;People are like stained glass windows; their beauty only shows if there&#8217;s a light within.&quot;</i>     <br />When karma comes around she tends to be on my side so that signifies I must be doing right. I&#8217;m waiting to meet up with her and kick &quot;Life&#8217;s&quot; ass.     <br />Do you feel so demasculinated by your own sexual orientation that you have to use the term &quot;straight acting&quot;? What a slap in the face, hypocrite. News Flash: Someone being femme doesn&#8217;t make them gayer than you. You have no reason to not be comfortable unless there&#8217;s something not right with yourself.     <br /><i>&quot;Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don&#8217;t matter and those who matter don&#8217;t mind.&quot;</i>     <br />Flirting is fun and fine, but if you&#8217;re giving the same impression to multiple romantic interests then you&#8217;re diluting everything. Don&#8217;t bark up my tree. I&#8217;m a one guy kind of guy.     <br /><i>&quot;If it&#8217;s something you&#8217;ll regret in the morning, sleep in late.&quot;</i></p>
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		<title>Reasons Why Women Can&#8217;t Find Men</title>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>1. The nice men are ugly. <br />2. The handsome men are not nice. <br />3. The handsome and nice men are gay. <br />4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married. <br />5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money. <br />6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money. <br />7. The handsome men without money are after our money. <br />8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual,don&#8217;t think we are beautiful enough. <br />9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual,somewhat nice and have money, are cowards. <br />10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!! <br />11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative. </p>
<p>NOW, WHO UNDERSTANDS MEN? <br />Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it&#8217;s our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you&#8217;d like to have dinner with.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>A Hacker&#8217;s Prayer!</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:10:23 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Our Father, who 0wnz heaven, j00 r0ck!    <br />May all 0ur base someday be belong to you!     <br />May j00 0wn earth just like j00 0wn heaven.     <br />Give us this day our warez, mp3z, and pr0n through a phat pipe.     <br />And cut us some slack when we act like n00b lamerz, just as we teach n00bz when they act lame on us.     <br />Please don&#8217;t give us root access on some poor d00d&#8217;z box when we&#8217;re too pissed off to think about what&#8217;s right and wrong, and if you could keep the fbi off our backs, we&#8217;d appreciate it.     <br />For j00 0wn r00t on all our b0x3s 4ever and ever,</p>
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		<title>When Tomorrow Starts Without Me by David Romano</title>
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<p><big></big><big></big><big><strong>W</strong></big>hen tomorrow starts without me,               <br />and I&#8217;m not there to see;               <br />If the sun should rise and find your eyes,               <br />all filled with tears for me;               <br />I wish so much you wouldn&#8217;t cry,               <br />the way you did today,               <br />while thinking of the many things,               <br />we didn&#8217;t get to say.</p>
<p><big>I know how much you love me,              <br />as much as I love you,               <br />and each time that you think of me,               <br />I know you&#8217;ll miss me too;               <br />But when tomorrow starts without me,               <br />please try to understand,               <br />that an Angel came and called my name,               <br />and took me by the hand,               <br />and said my place was ready,               <br />in heaven far above,               <br />and that I&#8217;d have to leave behind,               <br />all those I dearly love.</big></p>
<p><big>But as I turned to walk away,              <br />a tear fell from my eye,               <br />for all life, I&#8217;d always thought,               <br />I didn&#8217;t want to die.               <br />I had so much to live for,               <br />so much yet to do,               <br />it seemed almost impossible,               <br />that I was leaving you.</big></p>
<p><big>I thought of all the yesterdays,              <br />the good ones and the bad,               <br />I thought of all the love we shared,               <br />and all the fun we had.</big></p>
<p><big>If I could relive yesterday,              <br />just even for awhile,               <br />I&#8217;d say goodbye and kiss you               <br />and maybe see you smile.</big></p>
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<p><big></big><big></big><big><strong>B</strong></big>ut then I fully realized,               <br />that this could never be,               <br />for emptiness and memories,               <br />would take the place of me.</p>
<p><big>And when I thought of worldly things,</big><small>              <br /></small><big>I might miss come tomorrow,              <br />I thought of you, and when I did,               <br />my heart was filled with sorrow.</big></p>
<p><big>But when I walked through heaven&#8217;s gates,              <br />I felt so much at home.               <br />When God looked down and smiled at me,               <br />from His great golden throne,</big></p>
<p><big>He said, &quot;This is eternity,              <br />and all I&#8217;ve promised you&quot;.               <br />Today for life on earth is past,               <br />but here it starts anew.               <br />I promise no tomorrow,               <br />but today will always last,               <br />and since each day&#8217;s the same day,               <br />there&#8217;s no longing for the past.</big></p>
<p><big>But you have been so faithful,              <br />so trusting and so true.               <br />Though there were times you did some things,               <br />you knew you shouldn&#8217;t do.               <br />But you have been forgiven               <br />and now at last you&#8217;re free.               <br />So won&#8217;t you take my hand               <br />and share my life with me?</big></p>
<p><big>So when tomorrow starts without me,              <br />don&#8217;t think we&#8217;re far apart,               <br />for every time you think of me,               <br />I&#8217;m right here, in your heart.</big></p>
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		<title>The 48 Laws Of Power</title>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers</b></p>
<p><b>Law 1</b></p>
<p><b>Never Outshine the Master</b></p>
<p>Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.</p>
<p><b>Law 2</b></p>
<p><b>Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies</b></p>
<p>Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.</p>
<p><b>Law 3</b></p>
<p><b>Conceal your Intentions</b></p>
<p>Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.</p>
<p><b>Law 4</b></p>
<p><b>Always Say Less than Necessary</b></p>
<p>When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.</p>
<p><i><b></b></i><b>Law 5</b></p>
<p><b>So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life</b></p>
<p>Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.</p>
<p><i></i><b>Law 6</b></p>
<p><b>Court Attention at all Cost</b></p>
<p>Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.</p>
<p><i><b></b></i><b>Law 7</b></p>
<p><b>Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit</b></p>
<p>Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.</p>
<p><i><b></b></i><b>Law 8</b></p>
<p><b>Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary</b></p>
<p>When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 9</b></p>
<p><b>Win through your Actions, Never through Argument</b></p>
<p>Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.</p>
<p><b>Law 10</b></p>
<p><b>Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky</b></p>
<p>You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.</p>
<p><b>Law 11</b></p>
<p><b>Learn to Keep People Dependent on You</b></p>
<p>To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 12</b></p>
<p>Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim    <br />One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 13</b></p>
<p><b>When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,</b></p>
<p><b>Never to their Mercy or Gratitude</b></p>
<p>If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 14</b></p>
<p><b>Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy</b></p>
<p>Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 15</b></p>
<p><b>Crush your Enemy Totally</b></p>
<p>All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 16</b></p>
<p><b>Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor</b></p>
<p>Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.</p>
<p><b></b><b>Law 17</b></p>
<p><b>Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability</b></p>
<p>Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.</p>
<p><b>Law 18</b></p>
<p><b>Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous</b></p>
<p>The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.</p>
<p><b>Law 19</b></p>
<p><b>Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person</b></p>
<p>There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.</p>
<p><b>Law 20</b></p>
<p><b>Do Not Commit to Anyone</b></p>
<p>It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.</p>
<p><b>Law 21</b></p>
<p><b>Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark</b></p>
<p>No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.</p>
<p><b>Law 22</b></p>
<p><b>Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power</b></p>
<p>When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.</p>
<p><b>Law 23</b></p>
<p><b>Concentrate Your Forces</b></p>
<p>Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.</p>
<p><b>Law 24</b></p>
<p><b>Play the Perfect Courtier</b></p>
<p>The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.</p>
<p><b>Law 25</b></p>
<p><b>Re-Create Yourself</b></p>
<p>Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.</p>
<p><b>Law 26</b></p>
<p><b>Keep Your Hands Clean</b></p>
<p>You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.</p>
<p><b>Law 27</b></p>
<p><b>Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following</b></p>
<p>People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.</p>
<p><b>Law 28</b></p>
<p><b>Enter Action with Boldness</b></p>
<p>If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.</p>
<p><b>Law 29</b></p>
<p><b>Plan All the Way to the End</b></p>
<p>The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.</p>
<p><b>Law 30</b></p>
<p><b>Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless</b></p>
<p>Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.</p>
<p><b>Law 31</b></p>
<p><b>Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal</b></p>
<p>The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.</p>
<p><b>Law 32</b></p>
<p><b>Play to People’s Fantasies</b></p>
<p>The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.</p>
<p><b>Law 33</b></p>
<p><b>Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew</b></p>
<p>Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.</p>
<p><b>Law 34</b></p>
<p><b>Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one</b></p>
<p>The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.</p>
<p><b>Law 35</b></p>
<p><b>Master the Art of Timing</b></p>
<p>Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.</p>
<p><b>Law 36</b></p>
<p><b>Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge</b></p>
<p>By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.</p>
<p><b>Law 37</b></p>
<p><b>Create Compelling Spectacles</b></p>
<p>Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.</p>
<p><b>Law 38</b></p>
<p><b>Think as you like but Behave like others</b></p>
<p>If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.</p>
<p><b>Law 39</b></p>
<p><b>Stir up Waters to Catch Fish</b></p>
<p>Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.</p>
<p><b>Law 40</b></p>
<p><b>Despise the Free Lunch</b></p>
<p>What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.</p>
<p><b>Law 41</b></p>
<p><b>Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes</b></p>
<p>What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.</p>
<p><b>Law 42</b></p>
<p><b>Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter</b></p>
<p>Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.</p>
<p><b>Law 43</b></p>
<p><b>Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others</b></p>
<p>Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.</p>
<p><b>Law 44</b></p>
<p><b>Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect</b></p>
<p>The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.</p>
<p><b>Law 45</b></p>
<p><b>Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once</b></p>
<p>Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.</p>
<p><b>Law 46</b></p>
<p><b>Never appear too Perfect</b></p>
<p>Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.</p>
<p><b>Law 47</b></p>
<p><b>Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop</b></p>
<p>The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.</p>
<p><b>Law 48</b></p>
<p><b>Assume Formlessness</b></p>
<p>By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.</p>
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<p>You should try this because this will check if your DSL company gives your moneys worth.</p>
<p>My Plan is 384kbps for Php 999 in a month.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Why don’t I speak to you? It’s clear to see that you’re making every palatable effort just to talk to me. You’re apparently trying to act friendly to somebody who tries so hard to keep you invisible. What does it feel like to talk to a brick wall? Well, try to master the feeling and get used to it; you’ll be encountering that same feeling a lot more every time you try to talk to me.   <br />I’ve been chasing you for five months. That’s right, five grueling months. I trusted you with anything and everything. It’s been weeks since I’ve been having this fever. I cannot eat properly and my eyes are sore for crying myself to sleep every night. I can’t believe you did this to me. You, of all people. You, who’ve said that you’re deathly afraid of losing me and hurting me. You who’ve stated that you’re thankful for having someone like me. You who’ve said that you’ll never go far away from me; even the skies would tell me that you need me so. You…    <br />To tell you the truth, I’ve already forgiven you… Yeah, it may sound weird, but that’s true! Well, I did love you once upon a time, and every time you’ve hurt me, I’ve cried it out at night and smiled it out in the morning. Prayers for you always came first before my prayers for my true friends, my family, and yes, even myself. But then again, I cannot but ignore you.    <br />I’m a man who, in the youngest of ages, have seen and felt things that even a grown man shouldn’t see in a lifetime. I know how it feels like when the Angel of Death stares at me face to face. I’ve downed every problem I had so far. Death no longer scares me. Darkness no longer haunts me. The unknown makes me laugh. I have no fear, or at least, it used to be that way. Now I have only one fear… YOU!    <br />I’m afraid of YOU! You hurt me so bad that I can still feel my heart race like a supersonic jet every time I hear your name or see you walk by. I’m afraid that you’d hurt me again. I’m afraid that, when we start speaking to each other again, you’d lie to me again. It would have been fine if you would lie and never let me discover the truth. However, I, a human lie-detector, would eventually figure it out, and it hurts me so.    <br />So now, you’re probably asking yourself, “When the heck have I ever lied to him?” I don’t know maybe you should just keep that question to yourself. Try to remember the definition of lying, “lying is when you say what you’re not supposed to say and when you don’t say what you’re supposed to say”. That should be enough of a definition for you…    <br />You know what; you still mean the world to me right now. You’re still the first name that pops out of my head when the sun rises and the last thing that circles my head before my consciousness shuts down for sleep. That’s why every little thing you do hurts me so much. Even the smallest of lies and cheapest of tales hurt me so much. It cuts deep in me like a samurai through butter.    <br />I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I’ve got to move on. So many people are counting on me. So many lives are depending on me. The safety of the people I care for the most is in my hands. I don’t need a weakness right now. I don’t need someone who lets me second-guess my talents and abilities. I don’t need someone to cry over. In short, right now, I don’t need someone like you.    <br />Please understand. It’s not your new boyfriend. It’s not your successful school life. It’s not the platoon of friends you carry around or the battalion of boys waiting at your doorstep. It’s simply between us. It’s between the events that have happened between us.    <br />Honestly, the memories I’ve spent with you were, so far, some of the happiest in my life. I want to keep it that way. When I remember you, I want to remember not the hell you’ve put me through, but the heaven that I’ve shared with you.    <br />I am, after all, once upon a time, your “best friend” and your “love”. I know you better than anyone in the world does. I know you better than your pretty face and your beautiful body. I know you better than your generic clothes, your baby cologne and your 99-peso lip gloss. I know who you are and what you truly feel about the world. That is why I can always say that, in this world, you cannot but lie. It’s what you do. It’s how you protect yourself. It’s how you defend yourself from getting hurt. It’s how you soften up your enemies before you go for the kill.    <br />As sure as I am that one plus one equals zero, I’m sure that, when we speak again, you will not lie to me. You’ll do it all over again, and I’ll feel this way all over again.    <br />I, like you, have to protect myself. I’ll let my feelings for you pass. I’ll let time heal my broken heart and my shattered self-esteem. That way, when we talk again, you can lie all you want. You can even stand in front of me and tell me that you’re seated down. By that time, it wouldn’t matter to me anymore. It wouldn’t hurt me as much as it does right now. It wouldn’t cost me sleepless nights and lost appetites.    <br />Someday, when I’ve lost my love for you, when I’ve forgotten all the things you’ve put me through, maybe we can start all over again. We could be friends.    <br />Friendship is all I can offer you because I cannot trust you any longer. If you want my trust back that bad, work hard for it, as have I.    <br />And one more thing… Why am I always grumpy whenever you’re around? It’s not because I haven’t forgiven you for fooling me, because I have. It’s because I haven’t forgiven myself yet for letting myself be fooled by you…</p>
<blockquote><p>-Reedited to a boy to girl perspective</p>
<p>-Credits goes to clone03 of Lineage2 SEA</p>
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<p>It is strange to think; I haven&#8217;t seen you nor talked to you. I have seen the new moon, but not you. I have seen sunsets and sunrises, but nothing of your beautiful face. The pieces of my broken heart are so small that they could be passed through the eye of a needle. I miss you like the sun misses the flower; like the sun misses the flower in the depths of winter. Instead of beauty to direct its light to, the heart hardens like the frozen world your absence has banished me to. I will be in my autumn bed, I will find it empty and in the winter if you are not there. Hope guides me, which is what gets me through the day and the night. The hope that after you`re gone from my sight, it will not be the last time that I look upon you.</p>
<p>I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz, or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off. I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul. I love you as the plant that never blooms but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers; thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance, risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body. I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; I love you in this way because I don&#8217;t know any other way of loving but this, in which I does not exist, nor you, so close that your hand on my chest is my hand, so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.</p>
<p>I stutter words when I&#8217;m start talking to you, as if all the words I&#8217;m about to speak flew in the air. Each time I reply my heartbeats goes fast and my lungs is filled with air. Your every words are like an angel`s voice so pure so unique. I`m drawn to each letter of each word you speak, I say sorry for I’m not talking and just listening, Its like bees just attracted to honey and nothing more. Though I`m not gifted with spoken words, I`m making up by writing this letter, for in this letter all my love have been poured, every word in this letter is love. </p>
<p>Losing you would be the most severe punish that anyone shall bestow on me. It will be my death if you have gone so far from me. But these things won`t matter much for I will still follow you, pleading to give me your hand and touched my broken heart. Don`t leave my heart for it has been hurting since I was born and only you have just put ease in it. </p>
<p>From,     <br />Me</p>
<blockquote><p>The first to paragraphs I got in a sonnet.</p>
<p>The last 2 part is mine, which I didn’t know I made hahaha</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Relationships are not all happiness and love, yes your goal is to be happy with someone else and be loved by that someone, but although your happy and loved that doesn&#8217;t mean the relationship will last from what you expected it to be. From what I&#8217;ve seen and read, relationships are built from loyalty, love, understanding and trust. If one of those are left behind the relationship will slowly die or collapse. Its like a house that will slowly crumbles down if one pillar is neglected. and after that happens, bitterness and pain is left deep inside one&#8217;s heart.</p>
<p>Also some say that its also important to able to feel each others presence physically, which means being able to feel every touch and see each others eyes. Because it brings the feeling of assurance. assurance that what you feel is real, everything in the relationship is real. There are pros and cons in different kinds of relationship, its how both handle it. Two personality merge into one to become inseparable. Relationships must not be handled by just one person, it should be &quot;you cook the food, ill clean the house&quot; type thing. Differences is out of the question, it is put aside. Foolish pride and ego should be locked up. Being in a relationship means being not you, because you become one with another personality that you have to consider, understand and learn also. It won’t be difficult to do, just trust you heart. In a relationship both man and woman covers up from what each of them lacks, which will them a perfect combination.</p>
<p>Quarrels are not the main cause of a relationship being torn down, but the fact that the parties just didn&#8217;t do anything to patch things up. there are small factors in a relationship that will make it fall down. both parties should always patch things up, &quot;sorry&quot; isn&#8217;t that hard to say.</p>
<p>Love is boundless, one of the untapped resources of man, few have used it to do impossible things. all you have to do is believe.</p>
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